This post is Part 1 of 3 in a series of posts on giving your boss a leadership makeover.
This series was inspired by another series of posts titled, The Problem With Parenting Today, by Matt McWilliams.
We’ve all had bosses that are, well, less than stellar. Just like anything else in life, good ones are few, and great ones are rare. With that being said, there is one trait that I’ve noticed that makes all the difference. Do they want to get better?
If the answer is yes, then you are already working with a potential great boss. A real leader may be in there somewhere. Congrats!
If the answer is no, then you may have a tougher road ahead, but all hope is not lost.
Believe it or not, deep down, most people want to stay in their jobs. Change is hard. Sometimes fixing what you have seems easier than jumping into the unknown.
That’s why this project is not a weekend makeover like you see on TV. This is a long-term renovation that may take some time.
So…..let’s start with YOU!
The first thing you’ve got to do is examine yourself. Personally, I suggest you pick up the book, “QBQ! The Question Behind the Question: Practicing Personal Accountability in Work and in Life”. Long title, short book.
I know what you are thinking. This guy tricked me. I want to fix my boss, not me. Please don’t bail on me yet!!!
Fixing your boss isn’t going to be easy. So, you want to make sure you work out your kinks first. Truth is, your perception of your boss (and his perception of you) may be one of the biggest problems. This book will flip the tables on that real quick. Trust me!
When practiced consistently, QBQ does two things that will help set the table for you to have a major influence on the leadership of your organization:
- It eliminates victim thinking in everything you do.
- It gives you the freedom, the power, and the hope to take control of your life.
That’s a lot for a book that’s just over 100 pages.
In case you aren’t going to take my advice to run out and get it, let me give you a quick preview:
We all speak to our inner selves asking two versions of questions, “Why is this happening to me?” or “What can I do about it?”.
Feel free to replace the “why” with “who is going to do this?” or “when will this happen?”…
It may seem subtle, but which of these two versions you ask yourself will determine whether or not you experience victim thinking or personal accountability.
For you to makeover your boss, you want to be on the accountable side, not the victim thinker side. He won’t take any advice from a victim thinker.
Question: What is happening to you that’s making you want to make your boss over? What can you do about it?