This series was inspired by another series of posts titled, The Problem With Parenting Today, by Matt McWilliams.
How’s it going? Have you eliminated the victim questions in your head? Are the problems you face now met with a new focus on “what you can do” to change them? What about being a servant leader? Are you following the four principles we talked about? Let me know!
Well, I’ve saved the best for last. I’m guessing when you first read this headline, you knew that somewhere in all of this would be the confrontation you’ve been waiting for. Get out your boxing gloves, cuz here it is…
Alright, just calm down first. This isn’t actually going to be a typical “confrontation”. Think of it more as a long-term re-training. Be sure not to let them know what you are doing. This is between me and you. You see, what I’ve noticed is that approaching a leader with big intense change isn’t usually the best way to get on their good side (unless you are Gordon Ramsey, Robert Irvine, or Anthony Melchiorri).
The approach that I would suggest looks more like this:
- Be sure you’ve taken a hard look at yourself first (rinse and repeat daily).
- Take a DiSC profile exam to explore your communication style.
- Ask your boss questions about his or her leadership style. What is it that he’s looking for in his people? What are her thoughts on training, motivation, culture, etc. Don’t do it all at once. One question at a time; at the appropriate time. Just try to understand; no judgments.
- Slowly feed him or her content, however he or she learns. Does she read? Does he listen to talk radio? Offer up links to articles, podcasts, videos etc. Buy a great book like “Good to Great”, “Entreleadership”, or just about any John Maxwell book. (Be sure to sign it first!)
- Follow up. Use the books or content you give to ask specific questions; then challenge and debate respectfully.
- Continue this process…forever. Eventually, they will lead you or you will lead them. Either way it’s a win-win!
Personally, I’ve found that giving a book is one of the most impactful things you can do. Now, getting them to read it is another trick! 🙂
All of this may sound easy. It really isn’t! It will take bravery and courage. Every time you do one of these things, you risk rejection. And sometimes, you will be rejected. That’s ok. Just don’t give up!
Two things I must point out:
The first is that you shouldn’t be afraid to do these steps to your bosses boss. I’ve given many a book to CEO’s. They are usually shocked that I’d spend my own money and time to give them something like that. Imagine your CEO’s face when they open a book and you’ve signed it, “Thank you for all of your work”. It’s powerful!
The second thing is that, it is possible that your boss or CEO won’t respond to this approach. If they are closed to new ideas and stuck in their ways, then you may have to consider other tactics. You may even have to consider finding a new boss, if you know what I mean?
All of this is a lot of work, but it is doable. Just keep in mind that you are learning throughout this process. So, even if you end up realizing that you need a new boss, you will have grown. Any job and any boss will provide you with growth opportunities, if you have the right attitude!
Question: Just tell me how it’s going…