I know it’s the cultural norm to work long hours and to give so much to your job that you collapse at the end of the day. I’m doing that right now in my day job. But something doesn’t feel right about it to me.
The funny thing is that I don’t mind doing the work. I don’t even mind the extra hours. My problem is that the rest of my life is suffering. You know, the parts that I live for.
Enjoying the smile on my daughters’ faces. Holding my wife’s hand on a long walk. Writing. Bringing hope to people at work through this business. Normal stuff, right?
Maybe I’m spoiled from years of light duty? Probably not.
Maybe it’s because I’ve worked really hard to keep balance in my life? Yep, that’s it! I think…
But what is balance?
For me, balance is scheduling in some margin. That’s not my word. That’s from a friend of mine. Right now, I’m bleeding through the margins and work is crowding out my life.
It’s a bad feeling. Everything is affected or infected. Nobody in my life is protected.
I know that typical leadership blogs would tell you how to manage things, have boundaries, adjust your schedule, etc.
Personally, I do believe all of those things to be true. But sometimes, in the real world, you just have to go through it.
Something else that a friend recently told me was that I’m only in this situation because I have accepted it. Ouch, that stings!
But what can I do about it? Work is work. I have a heavy load right now. If I don’t take care of it, I’m not taking care of my family. Sometimes, the people at work are also my family. It’s a constant struggle.
So I turn to my faith…
What else can I do?
My faith in Christ sustains me. It gives me the strength to press through. Today I read:
“Whoever believes in me, as Scripture has said, rivers of living water will flow from within them.” -John 7:38
So, I’ve woken up at a ridiculous time to read and write about my own control issues. Which has lead me to this conclusion; I’m going to let go of control, role up my sleeves, and simply get to work. I hope you don’t mind.
In the comments section below, I would love to hear about your struggles with balance; your struggles with control; your faith or lack there of…